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There’s only one thing worse than finding out that your partner’s cheating: suspecting that your partner’s cheating. Unfortunately, it’s not always as simple as just asking your partner for the truth. One of the most common ways for unfaithful partners to deflect accusations of cheating is to dismiss their partners’ concerns as paranoia. Some even turn the tables and accuse their partners of pondering infidelity.

If you can’t catch your partner in the act, there are red flags to look for (suspicious errands, a sudden change in grooming or appearance, etc.), but what if you’re not 100 percent sure? Should you end your relationship without any hard evidence of infidelity, or wait passively for the truth to come out?

In the past, worried spouses hired expensive private detectives to do the dirty work, if they could afford to pay thousands of dollars. Now Infidelity DNA Testing, operated by the national DNA testing company Paternity Lab Center, makes it easy for any man or woman to scientifically confirm cheating, CSI-style. All it involves is sending in an item that’s potential evidence, like dirty underwear, bedsheets, condoms, or even cigarette butts, and having it tested for DNA. Should viable DNA be detected, you can then pay an additional fee for a comparison test to see if the DNA on your partner’s item matches yours. If not, you know someone’s got some ‘splainin’ to do. The whole process costs $600 at the most.

The whole process sounds icky and even sneaky, yes. But we’re talking about cheating! It comes with the territory. And while not all cheating partners are dumb enough to leave incriminating, bodily fluid-soaked undies around, many of them are. You deserve to know the truth, and no one can deny the validity of DNA. Even better, you’ll know the truth within five business days. And then you can move on with your relationship… or not.

Kip Charles, owner of the Paternity Lab Center, reports that the majority of people who call Infidelity DNA Testing are men who suspect their girlfriends or wives are cheating.

“More men call to find out how the process works, but most don’t actually go through with it,” Charles says. “Women are more likely to pull the trigger and actually submit an item for testing.” He says that about 70% of clients confirm that their partner was cheating as they suspected. “Maybe 30% of clients are wrong about their suspicions, but I’d say the rest already know something’s wrong. They know there’s a serious decision they have to make, but they have to be sure.”

The lesson: If you think your partner is cheating, follow your gut, but don’t forget all the technology—or dirty laundry—at your disposal.

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A 29-year-old Ethiopian housemaid allegedly smothered her newborn baby girl born through an adulterous relationship by putting her in a bag and keeping it closed for about six hours, the Dubai Criminal Court heard.

JAA is accused of premeditatedly killing her one day-old baby girl by wrapping her in a cloth and putting her in a bag and closing the bag with the intention to kill her. The accused denied killing the baby and claimed that she was born dead. However, the forensic report said the baby was born alive and she was fed milk and the cause of her death was suffocation.

AMI, 17, Emirati student, testified that the accused had been working for the family since July 2011 and used to stay in the helpers’ quarter in their villa’s yard. On April 26, the maid excused herself from housework, saying she is tired. On the following day, the family asked her to go out with them and were in fact intending to deport her.
“When the maid went to the bathroom, my grandmother started searching her bags. She searched the first bag and was opening the second one when the maid came out of the bathroom. She tried to prevent her from carrying on with her search but my grandmother insisted. Then the maid pulled out a wrapped piece of cloth and towel and said that there is a baby in it. She claimed that she brought the baby from outside. Checking the wrap we found a dead baby,” he testified.

The grandmother, AHS, 60, repeated the same testimony.

Police investigated the case and found out that the baby must have born alive after nine months of pregnancy. Forensic reported that the baby’s lungs were in ‘floating’ condition which clearly indicated that she had breathed air after delivery, contrary to the mother’s claim that she was born dead. Also, milky residues were found in her digestive organ in addition to hard waste in her intestine which means that the baby was fed more than once.

Forensic report that, from the wet condition of the umbilical cord, it appears that the baby was born either on April 25 or 26. Suffocation, and not the baby’s head injury, was the cause of her death, the report said.
The accused confessed before the police that the baby was the result of her adulterous relationship with AK who is being prosecuted by the Misdemeanor Court with JAA for adultery.

Records did not mention how JAA met AK and whether she continued her relationship with him after joining her employer. It also did not mention whether he asked her or encouraged her to kill the baby.

The accused claimed that the baby was born dead on April 26.

“She was not moving when she was born. I cut the umbilical cord with a knife which was in the room. I wrapped her in a cloth and put her on the bed at 8am. I was very scared that my adulterous relationship with a man would be discovered. I wrapped her body in a towel and put her in a bag and closed it until 2pm,” she testified.

Later the accused admitted before the police to giving birth to a live baby girl in her room and that nobody was with her when she delivered the baby girl on April 26, testified police officer Saeed Salem.
She admitted that she had put the baby in a bag and closed the bag so that nobody would discover her illegal and illicit relationship with a man that resulted in the baby.

She confessed to having adulterous relation with a man in August 2011. Police arrested AK with whom who she claimed she had adulterous relationship.

Forensic reported that AK was the real father and the accused was the real mother of the baby.

The accused, however, again giving birth to a live baby when she appeared before the prosecution and on Monday when she appeared in court.

“I gave birth to a stillborn baby. I did not kill my baby but she was born dead,” JAA told the jury presided by judge Hamad Abdullatif Abdul Jawad who ordered the appointment of a defence lawyer and to reconvene on October 15.

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Social media sites are beneficial in connecting with friends and relatives residing in different parts of the world. Social media also plays a deadly role in divorce and many American couple are breaking their marriage relationship and getting divorced due to social media networks. It is reported that 81% of lawyers from the American academy of matrimonial lawyers has pulled information from different social networking sites to fight for their clients regarding the divorce issue. 66% of lawyers use face book,15% use My Space and 5% information is taken is from twitter.

Mostly social media sites are used for cheating and flirting strangers on the other side and it is discovered that 1 out of 5 adults use face book site for flirting. It is reported that 235 of men usually tend to cheat the women and 19% of women who are not sexually satisfied use social media for cheating.

It is suggested to say no to face book and delete the account if it becomes burden and effects your marriage life.

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Are you lying to your partner about money?

When most people think of being unfaithful to their partner, they think it means having an affair. However, there are several ways you can be unfaithful to your partner: emotionally, physically and financially. The financial aspect is often overlooked as a problem because the one who is withholding the information thinks they are protecting their partner.

There are two types of lies: commission and omission. Lies of commission are knowing what you are doing, and justifying your actions in your own mind. (see items 2, 3, 5, 7, 8, 9, 10). Lies of omission, on the hand, means you’re leaving out some of the vital information about a financial transaction (see items 1, 4, 6, 7). There are warning signs to look out for, as in any brand of infidelity, and it’s up to you to decide if you want to confront yourself and share with your partner.

If you are unsure about telling your partner, then ask for help. Sorting out the problems with a therapist could do a world of difference for your relationship. Here are ten warning signs you are committing financial infidelity: Financial Infidelity: 5 Steps To Coming Clean [EXPERT]

1. “Oh, it only cost…” Sometimes, there is nothing underhanded about saying “it only cost …” when it was more or less than the stated amount. However, if you find you are saying “it only cost …” because you had agreed to only spend a certain amount and you went over by a substantial amount, then it’s definitely a problem. This is one way to go down the slippery slope to bigger issues.

2. Opening accounts (credit, bank, and loan). Opening an account without your partner knowing could be no big deal in your relationship, or it can be a very big deal. Some couples decide it’s best to keep their money separate. If that is the case, having a new account without your partner knowing may mean nothing. It can become a big deal, however, if you are divorcing.

3. Taking money out of your retirement fund. If you are taking money out of your retirement fund and your partner is not part of the decision making process, then this is a breach of trust. However, if you have a pre-nuptial that clearly states that it’s your money no matter what, then this is not a problem. The next questions to consider is: Why are you needing to cash out early and willing to pay penalties?

This sounds like something you would want to talk with your partner about before doing it, just to get another point of view. Or, if you have a gambling problem or some other kind of addiction that you are ashamed of, consult a therapist.

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It’s no secret that it can be pretty hard to sell a home these days, but a woman in Oregon is using a very personal story to win over buyers.

She’s openly advertising the fact that her husband cheated on her and then left her with the home!

Elle Zober’s sign says “Husband left us for a 22-year-old” and goes on to read, “For sale by scorned, slightly bitter, newly-single owner.”

Before you think this is an act of revenge, Zober says her ex-husband was actually on board with the idea and even helped her with the sign.

She says they both need to move on and to do that, they have to sell the house.

“I’m certainly not the first person to be cheated on and I won’t be the last.”

Zober says she needs every competitive edge she can get in this housing market.

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According to some new surveys, computer networking guys are near the top of the cheater list…right up there with other rich professionals like bankers and lawyers. And 40-something married fathers of two are most likely to cheat in a marriage. As for women cheaters, they are most likely to be stay-at-home moms, teachers, and health care workers.

Those results come from PRWeb.com. Here are some more current stats:

Research shows that up to 3% of all children are the product of infidelity, and most of these children are unknowingly raised by men who are not their biological fathers.

Some cultures have adopted extreme measures to combat infidelity, like DEATH as a punsihment!

Although men are more likely to cheat than women, as women become more financially independent, they act more like men in regard to cheating.

In many cases, infidelity never gets discovered…and the cheater gets away with it.

Emotionally, it IS possible to have feelings for more than one person at a time…but LOVING more than one person is difficult to do.

Office romances continue to increase. Spouses often spend more time with coworkers than with each other.

The initial decision to be unfaithful is rarely ever a rational choice. It is usually driven by one’s emotions. In fact, most people are surprised by their own behavior at the start of an affair.

Emotional infidelity can inflict as much, if not more, hurt, pain and suffering than just the physical act itself.

Unfortunately, many people find a more suitable mate AFTER they are already married.

Biological evidence shows that long-term monogamy is difficult for humans to achieve…but NOT IMPOSSIBLE.

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Spouses with wandering eyes should take notice – slipping off your wedding band might not let you off scot-free, anymore.

The blogosphere is buzzing over a new ring that promises to keep spouses faithful by imprinting the words, “I’m married” into the wearer’s finger. The declaration is carved into the inside of the band.

The cost of fidelity? Just $550.

The titanium rings are sold on the website TheCheeky.com.

“With Arnold, Tiger and two timing IMF guy in mind, we have created this wedding ring for people intent on cheating,” the company writes, poking fun at some high-profile cases of infidelity.

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A jobless woman who was visiting her husband in hospital ended up stabbing him over suspicions of his extramarital affairs.

This happened on September 22 last year, which was the day he was to be discharged.

The court heard that Quek Chin Fern, 38, visited her husband at Singapore General Hospital, where he had been receiving treatment for acid burn injuries sustained in an earlier assault by three unknown assailants.

During the visit, she raised the issue of his suspected infidelity.

This escalated into an argument.

Quek then took out a knife from her bag and swung it at her husband.

She stabbed him several times on his shoulder, cheek and neck.

A nurse saw him being attacked and alerted security immediately.

Quek’s husband suffered multiple lacerations.

The accused was fined S$4,000.

For voluntarily causing hurt, she could have been jailed up to two years and fined S$5,000. CHANNEL NEWSASIA

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Authorities are looking for an Orangeburg County Sheriff’s deputy after a woman was allegedly pistol-whipped and beaten during a domestic argument.

Dorchester County Sheriff’s deputies met a 23-year-old woman at a convenience store Wednesday night, according to an incident report.

She said her husband, 45-year-old Cpl. Kenneth Winningham, a deputy with Orangeburg County, had fired shots near her and assaulted her.

The woman said she was awakened by her husband around 12:30 a.m. Wednesday when he accused her of infidelity, the report said. He allegedly began beating her and later fired two rounds from a .45-caliber handgun.

Authorities with the Orangeburg County Sheriff’s Office went to Winningham’s Summerville residence and retrieved Winningham’s county-issued equipment.

DCSO spokesman Maj. John Garrison said as of late Thursday no warrants have been obtained against Winningham.

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PHOENIX — Experts say many American couples stayed together during the recession because they couldn’t afford to go their separate ways.

Now the improving economy could trigger a spike in divorces, which can be a nightmare as the April 17 tax deadline approaches.

The Roosevelt Institute found that states with a higher increase in unemployment saw larger drops in divorce rates between 2005 and 2009.

There’s evidence that the mild economic recovery of 2011 has led to a rebound of divorces and if the unemployment rate continues to fall that trend can be expected to continue.

Bill Brunson, a spokesman for the Internal Revenue Service, said even after divorce, if an audit finds prior tax fraud during the marriage, both parties are on the hook for the full tax amount owed.

“Generally, that’s the case because both spouses benefited from that income,” he said.

But in certain circumstances a husband or wife may not have to pay tax, interest and penalties.

“The couple is no longer together and one spouse had no benefit or knowledge of the other spouse’s income, the IRS will work with them,” said Brunson.

The tax burden can be lifted if a former spouse can establish being the victim of abuse or domestic violence and did not challenge the tax returns truthfulness for fear of retaliation.

“You’ve got reasonable cause for the IRS to look at that and understand those are unique circumstances,” said Brunson.

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